She is relatively tall, dark in complexion, has studs in her ears and anxiety in her eyes. She is not painfully thin but its safe to say she seems to have her body weight and waistline in check. She seems to me like that woman you will see for the first time and something about her will strike you immediately, and you wouldn’t know what. If it’s in the bar, you will buy drinks, one after the other, sitting in the corner, staring at her on the other end where she sits with her left leg on top of the right one, and try to figure what it is about her that got you hooked.
Is it her beauty? Or her natural short hair? Well, it could be, because surely, how many times have you lately met a woman with hair she does not have a receipt for? Anyway, that’s just me and my imaginations. Rael here is not like any other woman. She is a woman, yes, but she identifies most with boys. She loves men’s clothing and so she dresses in them. In short, she is a Tomboy. When I came across her blog, I was fascinated. I wanted to have a chat and know more about her and her Tomboy lifestyle. So I emailed her, she replied, we exchanged contacts and a week or so later, we WhatsApped and I asked her the questions.
My lady colleague whom I showed your blog said you didn’t really strike her as a Tomboy. She says you are smart and your look is more girly. Your thoughts?
I get that a lot. I look at men in well-cut suits, fitting shirts, perfectly placed pieces and that’s how I want to dress. Smartness for me goes a long way. I got it from my mum too, she never bought us (my brothers & I) any oversized clothes… you know… the kind that you grow up with.
The ones bought with the future in mind?
Clearly, you have a Kenyan mother.
Guilty. What misconceptions do people have about Tomboys?
The first misconception is the ‘smart’ bit. Neatness is a choice. The other bit is on sexual orientation. Again, that’s a question of what makes one happy, Tomboy or not. The third one would be: ‘We can’t be girly.’ Yes, we can be when called to the occasion. Being a Tomboy for me goes beyond the general looks. It’s in our character, energy and sheer sense of adventure. Hike or shopping? I would pick hike.
Speaking of Sexuality, I believe that it’s an inborn thing. Is it the same as being a Tomboy?
Yes, you are born one (Insert Smiling emoji)
Do you find it easy to relate with boys than you do with girls?
Yes, yes… any day.
Your favourite dressing style?
Jeans, tees and canvas shoes any day.
How do you spend your free time?
Family, travel (though I need to make more money in life) attend events when I can. As we speak, I am at the Utam Festival.
5. In your other life, would you rather come back as a woman or as a man?
In any lifetime, I would want to come back as Rael The Tomboy. You don’t question the work of God.
So, Rael, I know we are only supposed to ask people what they do for a living when we want to offer them a job but still, I would love to know what it is that you do.
Are you giving me a job? (she joked). Well, I am a project coordinator with one of the telecommunications company in Kenya.
Do you think the society is okay with Tomboys?
I think the society is okay with Tomboys. Going by family, friends and interactions, they are fine. Though every once in a while, people will point out how much of a girl you need to be.
Dating? Married Perhaps?
Let’s just say there is a guy I torment every once in a while. Maybe he will convince me to be in that gown. We can’t both do tux… (tuxedos).
Do You believe in submission?
In this case, what do you mean by submission?
Uhm, the man being the head?
How about we switch roles every once in a while?
Fair enough. Sometimes you meet people, or talk to them on the phone, or exchange text messages and you have to flash them feigned smiles and say ‘It was a pleasure,’ mostly out of modesty than honesty. But as for this chat I had with Rael, it indeed was a pleasure. In the midst of our goodbyes and goodnights, she wrote that now that we were done with our interview, she was free to dance because she can’t multitask. Obviously, hehee. Anyway, it was an honour, Rael. Like its always said, I don’t know by who, keep on keeping on.
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